Just a quick hit. I recommend the Morgan Spurlocker show "30 Days". His experiences are poignant and he brings up some very interesting questions.
Goodnight Christien. Daddy loves you and misses you. Please stay safe.
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
Sunday, August 27, 2006
Entry for 8/27, 2006, My response to "Justine"
The following comment was posted on my MySpace page (http://www.myspace.com/crqri_aka_carlos) by "Justine", someone who had just asked me to be her "friend":
"want to see the real carlos quevedo go to www.courts.state.ri.us click on criminal info search type in his name and click on docket entries HE IS ALSO A DEADBEAT DAD WHO OWS HIS SONS MOTHER 17, 779 !!!..AND HE WAS NEVA MARRIED UNTIL NOW TO HIS STEPSISTER!!..HOW NASTY HUH??"
Hindsight being 20/20, I regretfully deleted this comment. I say regretfully because it gave me a reason to explain a little more about myself on MySpace. Thankfully, I did copy it before I deleted it; I figured the least I could was answer "Justine" back, which I did, with the following e-mail:
"After much deliberation, I decided to delete your comment. I'm not ashamed of my past, mind you, but I did so because I believe that you are basing your assumptions on one side of the story. While what most of what you say is true, it is not accurate. For instance, did she (you know who I mean, because you could not have gotten such accurate information otherwise) happen to mention to you that the large majority of the child support arrears are from when I was actually in the ACI? When I went in, she was receiving $684 / month in support from me. Because of all of the continuances that kept happening while I was in, I never went before the judge to suspend the support during my incarceration. Add the interest, and it all piles up pretty quickly. Incidentally, the interest was supposed to have been suspended when we last went to court and had the support amended, but it wasn't because of some clerical error, so I have to go before the judge again to get it stopped. Essentially, all the payments I have made went solely for the interest (I feel as if I got a loan from Federal Hill!)
If you wish to know my other side, look at http://360.yahoo.com/crqri and view the blog. As you will see, I speak of my incarceration, and my situation. I also speak to my son, whom I have not seen since October 9, 2004, and whom I do miss dearly. Pay particular attention to the entry dated August 25, 2005. Read the whole blog, though. Its purpose is not to get people on my side, it's just my way of vocalizing my feelings. It will give you a better understanding of me. I will be more than happy to personally answer any questions you have. For now, let me answer some of the points you brought up.
You have every right to call me a deadbeat dad, because I can't afford to pay my child support. I am not making the $9 per hour I was making up north that my current payments are based on, so I keep falling farther behind. I barely make enough to pay my bills, sometimes not even that. If I did, any spare money I had would be going up north so I could get to see, or at least talk to, my son. In addition, my eldest son is PDD, so my job options are limited as I have to devote a great deal of time towards his well being. That is also discussed in the blog.
Now all I have to do is file a motion for relief, and I'm sure my payments would be reduced, but, and I'm not making any excuses, the honest truth is I am afraid to go before the judge because I am afraid he will be upset with how little money I am making now. Personally, these guys you hear about who abandon their kids, and don't do anything for them while they drive around in a new Beamer sickens me. Their asses should be thrown in jail just for not wanting anything to do with their kids. The thing is, I want to be a part of my son's life, she just won't let me. But, God-willing, one day that will change. Every day I pray for his well-being, and I pray for God to help me hear some word on how he is doing.
As for my wife, there is no blood relation between us, so how is that nasty? Her mother is married to my father. We did not know each other until we were young adults, and we hated each other, initially. We only started having feeling for each other after we re-met after I was released. Both of our parents were happy of our union, and gave us their blessing. By the way, we're actually divorcing now, so it doesn't really matter.
I hope you take the time to read this completely and also take the time to view my Yahoo blog. I apologize for the length but I figured it was necessary to answer you personally. As I said before, I am more than willing to answer any questions you have. All I ask is that this remain a civil discourse and that you always remember that there are two sides to every story and that somewhere in the middle lies the truth.
Sincerely,
Carlos R Quevedo
A Potential Friend"
By the way, I wonder if she ever saw the movie "Clueless" with Alcia Silvestone. If anyone remembers, the boy she falls in love with and hooks up with in the end was - her step-brother! I'm curious how many people found that nasty when they saw that movie. That's pretty much the same situation I have (for) now.
If anything, at least Justine gave me something to write about here. I can honestly say I have no idea who Justine is, or if she really exists and is not "someone's" alter ego designed to go after me. I usually just approve friend requests and then delete and report them afterwards if they wind up being garbage. Maybe I need to be more selective, but I do believe it is so much easier and fun to be someone's friend. Besides, I like meeting different people. I hope he is real, she does come to this page, and she does read all the posts.
Christien, I hope you are having a great summer and are getting ready for school. Your daddy loves you and misses you!! Que Dios te bendiga y cuida, mi hijo.
"want to see the real carlos quevedo go to www.courts.state.ri.us click on criminal info search type in his name and click on docket entries HE IS ALSO A DEADBEAT DAD WHO OWS HIS SONS MOTHER 17, 779 !!!..AND HE WAS NEVA MARRIED UNTIL NOW TO HIS STEPSISTER!!..HOW NASTY HUH??"
Hindsight being 20/20, I regretfully deleted this comment. I say regretfully because it gave me a reason to explain a little more about myself on MySpace. Thankfully, I did copy it before I deleted it; I figured the least I could was answer "Justine" back, which I did, with the following e-mail:
"After much deliberation, I decided to delete your comment. I'm not ashamed of my past, mind you, but I did so because I believe that you are basing your assumptions on one side of the story. While what most of what you say is true, it is not accurate. For instance, did she (you know who I mean, because you could not have gotten such accurate information otherwise) happen to mention to you that the large majority of the child support arrears are from when I was actually in the ACI? When I went in, she was receiving $684 / month in support from me. Because of all of the continuances that kept happening while I was in, I never went before the judge to suspend the support during my incarceration. Add the interest, and it all piles up pretty quickly. Incidentally, the interest was supposed to have been suspended when we last went to court and had the support amended, but it wasn't because of some clerical error, so I have to go before the judge again to get it stopped. Essentially, all the payments I have made went solely for the interest (I feel as if I got a loan from Federal Hill!)
If you wish to know my other side, look at http://360.yahoo.com/crqri and view the blog. As you will see, I speak of my incarceration, and my situation. I also speak to my son, whom I have not seen since October 9, 2004, and whom I do miss dearly. Pay particular attention to the entry dated August 25, 2005. Read the whole blog, though. Its purpose is not to get people on my side, it's just my way of vocalizing my feelings. It will give you a better understanding of me. I will be more than happy to personally answer any questions you have. For now, let me answer some of the points you brought up.
You have every right to call me a deadbeat dad, because I can't afford to pay my child support. I am not making the $9 per hour I was making up north that my current payments are based on, so I keep falling farther behind. I barely make enough to pay my bills, sometimes not even that. If I did, any spare money I had would be going up north so I could get to see, or at least talk to, my son. In addition, my eldest son is PDD, so my job options are limited as I have to devote a great deal of time towards his well being. That is also discussed in the blog.
Now all I have to do is file a motion for relief, and I'm sure my payments would be reduced, but, and I'm not making any excuses, the honest truth is I am afraid to go before the judge because I am afraid he will be upset with how little money I am making now. Personally, these guys you hear about who abandon their kids, and don't do anything for them while they drive around in a new Beamer sickens me. Their asses should be thrown in jail just for not wanting anything to do with their kids. The thing is, I want to be a part of my son's life, she just won't let me. But, God-willing, one day that will change. Every day I pray for his well-being, and I pray for God to help me hear some word on how he is doing.
As for my wife, there is no blood relation between us, so how is that nasty? Her mother is married to my father. We did not know each other until we were young adults, and we hated each other, initially. We only started having feeling for each other after we re-met after I was released. Both of our parents were happy of our union, and gave us their blessing. By the way, we're actually divorcing now, so it doesn't really matter.
I hope you take the time to read this completely and also take the time to view my Yahoo blog. I apologize for the length but I figured it was necessary to answer you personally. As I said before, I am more than willing to answer any questions you have. All I ask is that this remain a civil discourse and that you always remember that there are two sides to every story and that somewhere in the middle lies the truth.
Sincerely,
Carlos R Quevedo
A Potential Friend"
By the way, I wonder if she ever saw the movie "Clueless" with Alcia Silvestone. If anyone remembers, the boy she falls in love with and hooks up with in the end was - her step-brother! I'm curious how many people found that nasty when they saw that movie. That's pretty much the same situation I have (for) now.
If anything, at least Justine gave me something to write about here. I can honestly say I have no idea who Justine is, or if she really exists and is not "someone's" alter ego designed to go after me. I usually just approve friend requests and then delete and report them afterwards if they wind up being garbage. Maybe I need to be more selective, but I do believe it is so much easier and fun to be someone's friend. Besides, I like meeting different people. I hope he is real, she does come to this page, and she does read all the posts.
Christien, I hope you are having a great summer and are getting ready for school. Your daddy loves you and misses you!! Que Dios te bendiga y cuida, mi hijo.
Thursday, August 24, 2006
Entry for 8/24, 2006 HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHRISTIEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Christien,
I still remember the day you were born. It was a Sunday evening, and it is still one of my happiest memories. I wanted you to know that your daddy hasn't forgotten you. Please believe me son, I want to be a part of your life. If I had it my way, I would be. God will bring you back into my life. He wouldn't keep a father away from a son he loves forever. I hope you can still feel my love. Any time you feel alone, wrap yourself in your arms and know your father is there with you always- if not in body,then at least in spirit. Goodnight, mi hijo, I love you.
I still remember the day you were born. It was a Sunday evening, and it is still one of my happiest memories. I wanted you to know that your daddy hasn't forgotten you. Please believe me son, I want to be a part of your life. If I had it my way, I would be. God will bring you back into my life. He wouldn't keep a father away from a son he loves forever. I hope you can still feel my love. Any time you feel alone, wrap yourself in your arms and know your father is there with you always- if not in body,then at least in spirit. Goodnight, mi hijo, I love you.
Tuesday, August 1, 2006
Hey Christien
Christien,
I just wanted to let you know that Christina gave me your message. I'm still in NC missing you terribly. I was really hoping to have for some time- any time- this summer. I guess God knew how much I was thinkig of and missing you, so he made sure to let me know how you were. I love you. I miss you. I hope to see you soon.
By the way, Aaron also misses you and asks about you all the time.
Cuidate, mi hijo.
I just wanted to let you know that Christina gave me your message. I'm still in NC missing you terribly. I was really hoping to have for some time- any time- this summer. I guess God knew how much I was thinkig of and missing you, so he made sure to let me know how you were. I love you. I miss you. I hope to see you soon.
By the way, Aaron also misses you and asks about you all the time.
Cuidate, mi hijo.
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